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Is anyone out there??
posted 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I have been waiting to talk to people but no one responds.  Why?  Is anyone out there??

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Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I'm here.  Did you start a different conversation?  I haven't looked for a while.  What did you want to talk about?

Bekah's avatar Bekah
Bekah said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

What's on your mind?   Didn't see a particular subject mentioned, what do you want to talk about?

KLE's avatar KLE
KLE said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Hi Mia.  I'm here.  I'm fairly new to VN and learning my way around.  It seems that it is difficult to communicate on here.

Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to KLE 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I agree completely.  I wrote to them and asked if there was a way to send messages to people on here and they told me to give them my message and they would pass it on.  That isn't what I meant.  I did ask if they plan to have a way to do it in the future, but they did not answer that question when they responded to my email.  I never heard from the person I sent the message to so I have no idea if she was even given the message.  I asked her on one of the message threads, but I can't remember which one it was and I can't find an answer from her.  I really like this site.  I just wish it was easier to communicate with each other and I would like it if you could have personal one-on-one conversations with other members.

Marilyn - VN Staff's avatar Marilyn -…
Marilyn - VN Staff said to Petitetiger 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Hi, Petitetiger. You might have missed my September 29 email letting you know that I had contacted another member on your behalf. She may or may not decide to respond, of course.

We're always adding new features to Vibrant Nation and it's likely that we'll build out a mechanism for one-to-one member contact in the future. Stay tuned. :-)

 

Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to Marilyn - VN Staff 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I just got it this morning.  Thank you.  I hope you do add that.  Is there a way to make it so you can stay logged in?

Marilyn - VN Staff's avatar Marilyn -…
Marilyn - VN Staff said to Petitetiger 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I'm seeing a number of posts on developer sites about this issue. Evidently, it happens only in some versions of Internet Explorer.

While IE is working out the bug, I'll continue to use Firefox as my internet browser. Firefox enables me to stay logged in to Vibrant Nation until I manually log out. Here's a link to download the free browser in case you don't have it.

Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to Marilyn - VN Staff 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I have a Mac.  I hope when you are considering things for this site, you consider those of us who have Macs.  

Marilyn - VN Staff's avatar Marilyn -…
Marilyn - VN Staff said to Petitetiger 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Me too! And I love it.

Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to Marilyn - VN Staff 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

So can I use this browser with my macbook pro?  I thought I had to use Safari.

Marilyn - VN Staff's avatar Marilyn -…
Marilyn - VN Staff said to Petitetiger 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

You sure can. Here are a couple of links to the free download:

Apple

Mozilla

Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to Marilyn - VN Staff 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Thank you.

KLE's avatar KLE
KLE said to Marilyn - VN Staff 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Marilyn, I have checked the box to "follow this post."  What exactly happens, are we suppose to be contacted when there is a new post?  Thank you.

 

Marilyn - VN Staff's avatar Marilyn -…
Marilyn - VN Staff said to KLE 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Anyone who initiates a conversation automatically receives an email when someone responds to her post.

Others can check the box to "follow this post" and receive a once daily email notification when someone adds to that conversation. Please remember to log in before you check the box, though; otherwise, the system won't know who to send the automatic notifications to.

Let me know if you have any other questions.

Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to Marilyn - VN Staff 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I always check follow and I have never ever received an email saying anything about people adding to the conversion.  Could I have turned it off somehow?  

Marilyn - VN Staff's avatar Marilyn -…
Marilyn - VN Staff said to Petitetiger 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I had the same experience before I realized that I was not logged in when I checked the box beside "follow this post." Once I made sure I was logged in, I received notification any time there was a new comment.

Would you give it a try again and make sure you're logged in when you check the box? If you do, and you know there have been new comments added to the thread but you still don't get an email after 24 hours, please let me know and I'll dig deeper. You can call me at 502-568-5555 or send an email to marilyn@vibrantnation.com.

Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to Marilyn - VN Staff 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I log in first thing when I come to the site.  I have always been logged in.  I thought you had to be to make a comment.  I will email you.

KLE's avatar KLE
KLE said to Petitetiger 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Petitetiger, What did you find out about this?  I have never received a notice when I was logged in either.  Hope you are doing well.  KLE

Marilyn - VN Staff's avatar Marilyn -…
Marilyn - VN Staff said to KLE 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

KLE, I've let the developers know that you, too, have not been receiving email notifications when someone adds to a post you're following. Stay tuned...

Marilyn - VN Staff's avatar Marilyn -…
Marilyn - VN Staff said to Marilyn - VN Staff 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

We found and fixed the problem, and you should start receiving email notifications for any conversation you're following that has a new comment.

Thanks for letting us know -- and for your patience while it got figure out. Together, Vibrant Nation members are building a terrific online community!

JAZZY's avatar JAZZY
JAZZY said to Petitetiger 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I agree Petitetiger. Although I know this is a fairly new site, but I'm looking 4ward 2 some upgrades for communicating one-on-one, as well.

mia's avatar mia
mia said to KLE 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Thank you for your response.  I just want people to talk to  who want to share some of there world.  I am also new at this.  My husband of 38 years died suddenly in June.  I am so lost right now but it really helps talking to people on here.  I just need some friends.

Mia

Beth - VN Staff's avatar Beth - VN…
Beth - VN Staff said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Ladies,

If you click on the members name, you can see every conversation they've posted to on the left hand side of their page. The same is true for you. If you use that feature, you can always go back and find any conversation you've participated in.

Thanks very much for your feedback. We are a young site and are still planning new features, so we appreciate hearing what you'd like.

Sincerely,

Beth Blakely

Community Manager

502-568-5555, beth@vibrantnation.com

itsmemargie's avatar itsmemarg…
itsmemargie said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Im here. Lets talk!

mia's avatar mia
mia said to itsmemargie 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Really I don't have a lot to say.  I just like hearing from people.  I was married for 38 years to my best friend who I died suddenly in June.  I am lost, lost and more lost.  I go to work daily and do well but on my ride home it comes flooding in no body is there.  My adults kids try hard to keep mom busy but most night I just like to be alone.  I do enjoy the computer and talking with different people about mostly anything.  Thank you for responding and please write back

Mia

mia's avatar mia
mia said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Thank you for your response. I am recently widowed.  I was married 37 years to my best friend.  I didn't realize how we did everything together and did not keep close friends.  I am so lost right now.  I just want people to talk to.  I have wonderful kids and grandchildren however it is just not the same talking to them.  I have a tendency to put on my mask to keep from upsetting them.  I just want adult conversation.  Is anyone interested in just talking.  I don't care about what, the weather, sports, work, whatever.  Just talk.

Thank you, Mia

Petitetiger's avatar Petitetig…
Petitetiger said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Mia,

My email address is petitetiger@mac.com.  If you want to send me an email, I would be happy to talk with you whever I am able.  I am pretty ill right now so I am not online every day, but I check my email as often as possible.  I am so sorry for your loss.  My name is Terri.

Linda1952's avatar Linda1952
Linda1952 said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Hi Mia,

My name is Linda.  I was widowed young also and I too have the same problem.  My hubby and I did everything together with my son.  Now he is a grown man and there is just me.  I have no daughter-in-law or grandchildren.  Just he and I.  I also yearn for people to talk to.  I would really like to find someone to date.  The fact that I am overweight and 57 might be the problem.  My email is lkcltd@yahoo.com, if you should ever want to email.  Take care and God bless.  Linda

mia's avatar mia
mia said to Linda1952 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Thank you for your response.  How did you get through it?  Does the loneliness get any easier?  Do you work.  I think my work helps me a lot.  I have been retired for 3 years but went back after my husband died.  Although some days it takes every ounce of energy in me to get out of that bed but I do it.  I try to take it one minute at a time.  

Mia

JAZZY's avatar JAZZY
JAZZY said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Yes, Mia. I'm here. Just tell me what you want 2 discuss, no matter what the subject is. I am open 2 meeting new people and open 2 discussion. Is there anything in particular that you want 2 talk about?

mia's avatar mia
mia said to JAZZY 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I was suddenly widowed in July after 38 years.  I was truly married to my high school sweetheart and best friend.  We did everything together and had major discussions.  I never knew how we had no outside friends until he was gone.  We had people we knew but not close friends  It's lonely.  Sometimes I just want to talk about nothing and everything.  Thank you for your response.

Mia

mia's avatar mia
mia said to JAZZY 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!
LONELINESS,  I was recently widowed after 38 years.  We were one person together so needless to say I feel like 1/2 a person now.  I am trying hard to regain my strength especially for my kids and grandkids but it is amazingly hard.  Our sons were very close to their father but they have there families to go home to.    I come home to a very empty house.  I thank God everyday for my work, it helps me a lot.  I just take it each moment and pray I make it okay to the next.  Thank you for listening
Mia


JAZZY's avatar JAZZY
JAZZY said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

I'm sincerely sorry 2 hear of your husband's passing and your sudden lonliness.It's definitely understandable after sharing so much of your life and love with one individual.  Anytime you feel you want 2 talk, about anything , I am here 4 you.

Leen0110's avatar Leen0110
Leen0110 said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

What are you trying to talk about?

mia's avatar mia
mia said to Leen0110 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Just talking to people. I was recently widowed and I am so lost right now.  I was married 38 years to a wonderful husband, father, grandfather and best friend.  I miss our conversations so much.  I just want adult conversation.  

 

Mia

Leen0110's avatar Leen0110
Leen0110 said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

Hi Mia, Just a question; do you have interests outside of work & family? Foreinstance; I like to go walking (used to do strenuous hiking but can't keep up w/that level of exercise right now), gardening, reading, ccooking for fun & relaxation. I recently made contact with a local group, that's goal is to open a thriving Food Co-op and am looking for a community adult choir, that's hours fit within my work schedule. I miss singing in a choir!

patricia car's avatar patricia …
patricia car said to mia 10/06/2009, 01:57AM new!

MIA,YOU WEREN T OVERLOOKED,IMSURE. It s a newer group is my understanding.

I hope all is well there.Have a fine day.pmcpec@yahoo.com

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