Hello, Jeanne and Shakti and Linda and Jennie -
I am happy to read that the Golden Girls notion appeals to you. I believe firmly that it is the way of the future, particularly for women of a certain age whose children are launched, whose lives are their own, and who truly enjoy the delights of communal living. But don't forget about the possibility of including men in the mix. That can also work well.
Since I wrote this post a year ago, mainly as an exploration of what I thought might felt right for many of us, my life has changed. I did sell my house and put everything in storage. This freed me to live in a beautiful home with a couple who are good friends. We all have our privacy and we also have the advantage of knowing there is someone for coffee or a shared meal, if we so desire. I am busy with a full-time private psychotherapy practice, and I have no intentions of letting up on it, though my schedule is my own and I work three full days a week, giving me four for other interests.
My Sweetheart is an Italian man, who is retired and lives just north of Venice. I go to Italy 3-4 times a year and we travel together when I am there. At the end of the summer, however, he will be moving here to be with me forever.
Our house is large enough that both couples can comfortably share it with the joys of community and the privacy we all need. Fortunately for us all, my sweetheart is also a brilliant cook! Once he is here and we have explored living in the USA for a year or perhaps longer, we will decide whether to settle here or in Italy.
At first I thought we would move into a home of our own upon his arrival. Now, however, realizing how deeply comforting it is to be here with my friends, and seeing how well the house will work for the four of us, I believe that staying here will be the better choice for all of us.
If the house and the group are chosen with consciousness about what works and what doesn't; what you need and what you don't need; where you'd like to live and where you would not like to live; which interests you share and which are important; and a host of other considerations, this arrangement can work beautifully.
I see it as a comforting and loving way to live well into advanced years, and believe our house situation could be replicated anywhere the desire and the willingness to create a conscious and intentional arrangement exist.
I send my very best wishes to everyone considering this new way of living. I heartily endorse it, and would be happy to answer any questions or perhaps write a lengthier article on the topic, if there is sufficient interest among the group in having me do so.
Let me know if you'd like to know more about how we created this situation and what is involved.
May blessings and a multitude of beautiful choices manifest for you in this coming new year!