Are you not aware of the concept of "Family Planning" and "Planned Parenthood" and such concepts? Isn't this a concept about planning for family; mainly for planning about choosing whether to have children or be childless? So, yes, child birth is PLANNED! Couples who want them talk about it. Prepare for it and for 9mos they go on a frenzy of doing everything that will usher this event of their life to be beautiful! Do you have children? Did you give birth to at least one baby? Coz this is pretty obvious! So yes, and yes and yes this is a choice, a plan! Altho in some circumstances acquiring a child is not by choice but by accident on the other hand some women who have TRIED having children but failed becomes unwittingly childless. If you have TRIED then your first choice was to have children which mean you aim to empathize with children and have the desire to care for them. On the other hand there are those we know who consciously just avoid to have children and who are even practicing profession dealing with children but are more comfortable with caring for pets (nothing against pet lovers!). This JUST makes me wonder, cause like you said children are God's blessing. I specially wonder why, if I know that the partner of a woman wants kids and she doesn't. It makes me wonder big time and question the perspective of the woman. But I do not pass any judgment on her because that is her life; her choice! I would have my own opinion about her but that is my personal issue, and she doesn't need to know it.
But Sally, this is where I want to make myself clear. I do not think that women who choose to be childless are ugly. I find it ugly that if she chooses to be childless she also want to impose special treatment like imposing on how people should speak to her when discussing this "touchy" subject. This post makes it clear that it is rude for others to use certain words or phrases to childless women. Why? Isn't it antagonizing to mothers if you waltz into a discussion and the first thing you say is "I am special because I am childless so be careful with what you say to me". To me that is being rude and seem prohibitive to mothers. She seem to be wanting to reach out but she immediately want to censor everybody and control the discussion? She might as well talk to herself! And if I am the other party to the discussion i will choose not to talk to a childless woman because that will be safe bet for me to make sure I will never be rude to her. I do not want to be walking on eggshells when engaged in some casual conversation. She can demand that from her confidant or counselor but not to an ordinary person like me, because it would be hard for me to know where to draw the line and to think twice every time a word comes to mind and that is a very tall expectation for a very simple conversation. It would be easier to just not talk about it or for childless woman to just talk to fellow childless women only; so she does not put a mother in an awkward position.
I made my choice to be a mother and i have proven i can be one but i do not pass judgement to those unfortunate not to have babies unless they start whining about it and make ridiculous demands for special treatment and special conversations from ordinary people. I have just grown old enough to be tired of over-sensitivity and drama. Specially to those who whine or are touchy on issues that they can easily deal with or change/improve. "