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I am writing this at a time when I am having problems in my life dealing with my past. While I thought I had overcome a troubled childhood, recent events have caused me to have to remember some of the difficult times in my life. My childhood was with my mother and brother. My mother worked all of the time and we still often didn't have money to live on. My only older brother has never wanted me around or communicated with me in a positive manner. Now I am 65 and he is 67 and we still can't communicate. My mother is still alive at 88 and while we haven't never lived together since I was little our relationship is good. We live far apart and I have only been able to visit her once a year. I have never brought up any of our past with her. I don't want her to have to go through any part of her rough life again.
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How did you get to where you are now?
I left my husband after a 30 year marriage and escaped to a state far away. Six years since our divorce, he still begs me to come home. Any time he writes to me, he tells me how his life or any part of the times with our daughters are not as good as if I were there. He still puts a guilt trip on me. I now live in Arkansas and I have recently retired. While I have to struggle to make ends meet, I am happy that I can live alone and not have to face other people. Most people who know me would never know that I have any problems. I seem to naturally be able to brighten up when with others and people say they love my friendliness and big smile.
How do you see yourself differently now than you did 10 years ago?
Ten years ago I was married and my children were grown and living on their own. I felt trapped in a marriage that had been lived only for our children. I would dream of how I could escape and go where no one knew me and could find me. I stayed because I didn't want to hurt my children. We were also part of a religious church that took over our lives. While we had hoped a strong faith would help us in our marriage and family, I believe it seemed to bind me in a life where I didn’t have close friends. While I was active in our church, I think it wasn’t really in my heart and I was feeling more and more trapped. When my daughters moved out to live their lives, I lost my best friends. Now I didn’t have anyone to do anything with. I shopped alone, went to movies and concerts alone, but I always went back to a house that felt like a cage. Sometimes I would escape even for a few days, without telling my husband where I was going. I would journal my feels and give him the journal so we could discuss our problems. I couldn’t even tell if he ever read the journals as we didn’t discuss or face our problems. Now I have finally escaped and live a long way away from that life. I have finally flew out of the cage for good. My ex husband still begs me to come back and tells me that his life is not the not good without me. He tells me that even our daughters miss me and their lives would be much better if I were back with him. My daughters say they understand and while they love their father, they understand why it was necessary for me to leave him

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Facing my troubled past

Posted in family & relationships, health & fitness on February 19, 2012
After a few traumatic memories have been brought up, I suffered one of my worst migraines. Now I am wondering if the migraines that I have suffered throughout my life might be related to not opening up and accepting my past.read more »

Staying Single and Liking it

Posted in family & relationships, love & sex on January 28, 2012
Six years after divorce, I still do not want a man for anything other than a friend. If a man starts to show interest in me, I panic. Is it possible to just be friends? How do I tell a man, I want to just be his friend?read more »

Spousal abuse

Posted in family & relationships on November 20, 2011
A friend of mine is in a abusive marriage. She is very Christian and soft-hearted and keeps taking him back.read more »

Real Love at any age.

Posted in love & sex on December 29, 2010

I have tried other dating sites and have actually had a meeting with a few. POF has many men to look at and exchange messages with. It is not so hard to…

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Next step in relationship

Posted in family & relationships, love & sex on November 19, 2010

I am 64 (divorced 5 years ago from a 30 yr. marriage). My significant other is 67 (married 4 times and divorced 8 years). We have committed to each other our love…

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Response to: Married or Single?

Comment posted on January 28, 2012 at 9:22 pm:
"I was searching for this topic. I had to start a new topic, but this answers many of my questions. This is what I wrote then. "Six years after divorce, I still do not want a man for anything other than a friend. Somehow I get the feeling that all wom..." (read comment)

Response to: Real Love at any age.

Comment posted on January 10, 2011 at 4:15 am:
" You are very attractive and certainly don't look like a "baby boomer". Must've been a different group than I. You have every chance to find someone who is the right person for you. The man I am speaking of is also from Mississippi. This is the..." (read comment)

Response to: Real Love at any age.

Comment posted on January 8, 2011 at 4:36 am:
"The thing that we see in these comments are the success stories. I can't strss enough to be very careful with tnose men we meet through dating sites, as well as, other ways. There are just as many stories of matches that didn't work out or women that..." (read comment)

Response to: Real Love at any age.

Comment posted on January 8, 2011 at 4:23 am:
"There is always hope, even if you don't know you are looking for someone. The man in my relationship is nothing like who I would have thought would be a match for me. We are both from two different lifestyles. I think one of the things that has ..." (read comment)

Response to: Marriage after 60....or just live together?

Comment posted on December 27, 2010 at 2:54 pm:
"I am 64 (divorced 5 years ago from a 30 yr. marriage). My significant other is 67 (married 4 times and divorced 8 years). We have committed to each other our love after a 4 month relationship. I can see where he should be nervous about marrying again..." (read comment)