7 years ago
I realized, while schmoozing at a party,that I was having such a good time talking to everyone, one by one, sometimes two at a time, that food became secondary. Before I knew it,
the evening was over, and I'd only ingested a small bowl of chili and some fruit. I didn't have anything to confess to Our Lady of Weight Loss. Miracles do happen!!!
I invite you to work the room, chit the chatter, and leave the chips and dips behind. The ability to be a great conversationalist can be cultivated. Here follows a few conversational tips that you might want to mull over.
Talking Tips for Great Conversationalists from Our Lady of Delightful Dialogue
1. A conversation is not a monologue. Limit yourself to 4 sentences or 40 seconds, whichever comes FIRST.
2. Silence is golden. Just as a pause is important in music - so is a bit of silence in a conversation. Give others an opportunity to jump right in.
3. Be interested in the other person. Be attentive. Ask them questions. Draw them out.
4. Do not offer advice. Hello, did anyone ask you for your opinion?
5. Look for visual signs. If you see any eye-rolling, clock watching, foot tapping - you've overstepped your bounds and more than likely your time limit.
6. You don't have to be right. No, really - you don't.
7. Stick to the topic at hand and roll with it.
8. Don't tell jokes unless you are truly skilled at it.
9. Be tactful, alert and sympathetic.
10. Always be in good humor. No matter what!
11. Don't preach or take yourself too seriously. Do not dwell on moral issues.
12. Be positive. Negative talk will make you a negative person. (YIKES! We don't want that to happen, do we?)
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